It would be naive to suggest you get clear on your vision without first making room for the voices in your head.
Don’t get me wrong – I don’t think you’re crazy. You’re the natural product of all who’ve come before.
Which means you’re walking around right now filled to the brim with beliefs you picked up from your parents, siblings, teachers, friends, neighbors – even fictional characters and TV personalities!
The trouble is – these voices may not all be on the same page, or align with what you really want.
For example, say you really want to run your own business. But every time to start to take action, the voice of your grandfather chimes in to caution that “only foolish men act rashly; a slow and steady pension wins the game.”
So you doubt yourself and stay stuck.
Or you really want to fall in love and get married, but as a child you watched your Mom get divorced and feel alone. So a part of you believes it’s not safe to trust someone else with your heart.
These may seem like silly examples, but the voices in your head can keep you trapped in an unfulfilling cycle of dreaming and doubt for years – if not your entire lifetime.
Which means if you’re serious about living your vision, it’s time to get serious about confronting these voices.
1) Pick something you would like to be / do / have in your life.
2) List out all the reasons it’s not possible, wise, or safe for you to pursue it.
3) Label each belief with the person or place you learned it.
4) Write down a new belief that you’d rather choose.
Here’s the important part to remember – identifying where you learned certain beliefs and habits doesn’t imply that the source is flawed, broken, wrong, or in any way intentionally misled you.
Assume that everyone is doing the best they can in the moment. Honestly they might have even picked up the beliefs from their own parents or environment without even realizing it!
So cut yourself and your loved ones a break. Your mission is to release yourself of beliefs that don’t serve you; not to judge where they came from.
Be free. Be brave. Be YOU!
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