In my last post (read it here), we talked about building up your self-esteem by recognizing both your blessings and how far you’ve come over the past 5, 10, and 15 years.
Most of us get caught up in the day-to-day of life and forget to notice our own incremental change and growth.
But you’ve accomplished great things in your life – from potty training and learning to read to getting your first job and having kids.
The trouble with those types of achievements is that they feel obvious. How can you celebrate what’s assumed to be a given?
You write off your accomplishments as “no-brainers”, which erodes your confidence further.
So how do you get around this self-defeating cycle of achieving and then belittling your success?
You succeed on purpose.
When you set a goal for yourself, you focus your mind on making it happen. You give yourself something to aim for and measure against.
It doesn’t matter if that goal is jumping higher or making a million – you organize your thoughts and efforts around a central theme, which makes it easier to make decisions and take advantage of opportunities.
Plus – if you’ve ever felt the ease of getting a gift for someone with a clear hobby like fishing or collecting cat figurines – when you have a central focus, people love to help you achieve your goal.
The best part is, at the end of the day, it rarely matters if you achieve your goal.
The confidence comes from setting your intention and taking focused action. If you later veer off course, it’s only because you found more clarity and direction along the way.
Here’s Step 2 in your confidence process (as suggested by my friend Sarvesh):
1. Pull up your Google, Outlook, or Apple Calendar.
2. Make a new calendar entry for 5 years from your next birthday – so for me July 2, 2021.
3. Title it something like “Vision of My Life” and then list how you believe your life will be in 5 years.
Include what you’d most like to see – career, family, romance, home, travel, spiritual life. Make sure to note how you feel. You can also include insights into what you eat, what hobbies you enjoy, what you wear, and any other aspects that light up your future vision.
The important part is to fully feel and envision what you most desire for yourself in the future.
4. Repeat the process for 10, 15, and 20 years out.
5. Let it go!
If you felt your vision fully, then you’re subconscious mind is already working to make it come true. So sit back and enjoy your present moment!
Want an extra bonus? Add my name and email to your list so that you can update me in 5 years how closely your vision reflects your life!
At first read, this may seem like a silly process, but nothing is more powerful than using the power of your mind and imagination to deliberately create your future.
With each success and new decision, you’ll feel more confident in your ability to direct your life as you want it to be.
Be free. Be brave. Be YOU!
p.s. Read part 3 HERE.
- What to do when you start slipping on your goals - January 9, 2019
- “But it’s not safe to be me…” 3 approaches to the fear of not being safe - January 7, 2019
- 3 tangible gifts of living your truth - January 5, 2019