Let’s talk about judgement. We all say we hate being judged and that we don’t judge others, but I’m going call you out on that.
Of course you judge.
Maybe it’s subtle – you roll your eyes at celebrities you think make too much money. Or maybe you’re upfront about it and do things like call politicians evil, dangerous, or stupid.
We all do it!
Overt or not, these judgements have one thing in common – they come from a place of negativity and wanting to rip others down.
Whether it’s caused by jealousy or a deeper issue (money triggers are big), most of us judge the wrong way.
Let me explain.
When you’re living from your best and highest place of alignment with your true self, you don’t waste energy complaining about others.
Why would you? It doesn’t enhance you.
Sure, judging is a human experience. I studied anthropology and ethnic conflict, and – let me tell you – judgements can be life saving. Subconscious and unconscious judging helps you instantly assess what might or might not harm you. It has a biological rationale that’s important and still sustains you.
But since most of the things we judge aren’t about life or death anymore, it’s time to make conscious judgement work for you in the right way – the new way.
We’ve moved beyond physical survival to an era where all of us can reach for spiritual enlightenment – for true, unbounded potential in mind, body and spirit.
So why use your innate ability to judge others to be such a downer?
Use this incredible gift to your benefit and weed out who and what doesn’t support you. Not because you need to knock them down but because you only want the highest and best for yourself.
But there’s a catch.
To do this you’ve got to know exactly who you are. You’ve got to know what you want. You’ve got to know how you want to feel.
Then you can weed out of everything in your life that doesn’t help you be, get, and feel that way.
Stop wasting your time using judgement to feel less than. Stop using it to feel like you’re not smart enough, rich enough, wise enough, thin enough, carefree enough, loved enough.
Use it to protect your precious time and energy from anything and anyone who doesn’t take you where you want to go.
It’s your life. Take responsibility for who and what you let in it.
I know it sounds like tough love, but you’ve got this.
Be free. Be brave. Be you.
Alexis
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