Yesterday I wrote about feeling like you are going down but trying to stop it instead of giving in to the fall and letting yourself bounce.
For most of us, that sense of falling is related to money.
You feel like you don’t have enough of it, so you hold on to what you have for dear life and focus all your energy on the source that you want or believe it has to come from.
For most of us, that focus doesn’t feel good. It feels like stress, worry, panic, and anxiety. Plus it’s inherently focused on the lack of what you want – more ease, control, and money.
Of course, there’s an alternative way of feeling and interacting with the world.
You stop grasping and trust instead.
In this scenario, you trust that money will come. You trust that you are supported, and you put your desires above all else.
That means you decide that you will do, be, or have something and move towards it with the ease and clarity that comes from knowing the decision has already been made.
And this is why it’s so tricky — to make this work, you have to believe that you are in charge.
For many of us, this is where the process falls apart. Because on a deep level, we believe that someone or something outside of us is calling the shots.
It’s been keeping money away from you. It’s been denying you everything you want.
But here’s what I found to be true about my life:
It wasn’t some outside power denying me joy and financial freedom. It was me.
Because deep down I was still trying to do things to win approval and reward (aka money) from others. Instead of allowing money and other resources to support me in how I chose to be.
It was so insidiously subtle, I barely noticed it, but it came with thoughts like:
I’m doing everything right, why isn’t it working?
What’s wrong with me?
Why does it work for everyone but not me?
I’ll never figure it out.
That last thought in particular is telling – I’ll never figure it out – because there’s nothing to figure out!
There is no game outside of you that other people are playing better!
The only game – if there is one – is trusting fully that whatever you want and believe goes and then cleaning up your thoughts and feelings about that so you can let it happen.
Of course, it’s not that easy.
I knew this for years before I actually felt it. Which brings me to the next point.
If you don’t feel open, trusting, and easeful about your life right now, then please, please 1) don’t push, and 2) get help.
1) Life is supposed to feel good. I don’t just say that; I know that in my deepest core of being.
If you’re not inspired or lit up, don’t take action. Just wait and, in the meantime, clean up your beliefs and feelings.
I can hear you now saying: “I can’t wait. I need money, like, months ago.”
I get it. I really do.
Until recently my bank account was overdrawn at least once a month and I would burst into tears with gratitude if someone bought me lunch because I barely had money for food.
Contrast that with today when I just invested thousands in a coach, am joyfully paying off my debt, and have every reason to believe my wildest dreams are coming true.
But this breakthrough didn’t come from pushing.
There was no perfectly planned 4-week launch. No affiliate partners or free online challenges.
I just felt really good, heard the inspiration and acted.
You don’t have to strive to be abundant. It’s who you are already. Trust it. Allow it.
Which brings me to the second tip:
2) Get help.
When you’re locked in fear and stress, it’s too hard to turn it around on your own. You can’t see the proverbial forest for the trees.
Over the past few months, I’ve been working with no less than 3 energy healers at the same time to help me move beyond my own limitations. On top of that, I see a structural alignment specialist, who is helping my body literally take a new form and release old habits on a cellular level. Plus, I have a coach and I’ve cultivated amazingly supportive friends to uplift me.
Not to mention how loving and supportive you my readers are! (Thank you!!)
What I’m getting at here is that even though I wanted this change for years – decades even – I couldn’t make it happen.
First I had to accept that where I was was enough. And that I was enough no matter where I was physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
I had to let go of the cliff’s edge and let myself fall into the truth that even this – even this poverty, struggle, and fear – was enough and okay for now.
Then all the affirmations, energy healing, mindset training, and relationships could finally work their magic.
But you have to believe first.
You have to believe you are worthy of what you say you want.
You have to believe you are in charge.
You have to believe you are capable of living your dreams.
Be free. Be brave. Be YOU!
p.s. If you want to look them up, the energy healers I work with are Deana Welch, Marie Houlden, and Nathalie Guerin. I can’t say enough good things about their work and how it’s enabled me to step into who and how I want to be.
p.p.s. If you’re not sure how ease and abundance feels – tap into the cat in this photo or any animal. They’re not stressing about what you think of their choices.